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Bereavement Support

Being deprived of a significant-other through a profound absence,

especially due to the their death, often results in sadness

and a multitude of complicated feelings.
There's help for that here. 

The Pain of Loss

Most often, when someone dies, we don't really lose them, at least not in the way in which they might be found, alive. Yet the pain we experience as a result of a significant other's death often does include a deep sense of loss, that is often accompanied by the pain of yearning for their return--even though we know that will never happen.  Moving forward without the one who died might seem next to impossible--challenging and painful--as we begin to sort out life and discover who we are without them.

There's help for that here.

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Grief

"Our grief is as unique as our fingerprint."

                                        ~David Kessler

Grieving the death of a significant other is a multifaceted, emotional process.  There is no right, wrong, good, or bad way to grieve.  Our spiritual beliefs may, or may not, be helpful.  How our grief unfolds is dependent on a myriad of factors, some of them being our relationship with the deceased,

the emotional-climate between us, the other survivors,

and our personal life experiences.   

There's help for that here.

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Witnessing

Grief is not an illness.  It is a deeply personal and multilayered experience.  Those grieving do not need to be fixed.  Their unique bereavement process needs to be witnessed, unconditionally, by someone whose only agenda is to be fully present, supportive, and reflective.

There's help for that here.

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Child Loss

There are no words that come close to describing the pain of child loss. Unless we've experienced it, it is unfathomable,

even by the most empathic among us. Though every situation of child loss is unique, a commonality among bereaved parents is that of not only losing our children, but also the future we envisioned for them--and for ourselves. So we grieve for our children, and for the future we imagined.  Regardless of how old our children are, when they die, we are changed forever.  Feelings of sadness are often accompanied by those of anger, guilt, regret, and despair. Even so, resurfacing, regrouping, and redesigning one's life is absolutely possible--changed and all.  Truly.

There's help for that here.

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Infant Loss

The life of a newborn who died may have ended prior to birth,

or shortly their after. Others may have survived for days,

weeks, or months—with parents, grandparents, and other

loved-ones, sitting by their bedsides vacillating between basking in the glow of their arrival, and fearing the worst, which eventually happened. Still, others may have endured an accidental death. Moving forward, as mothers with bodies so prepared to nurture our babies, without the babies, is a most unnatural state in which we are thrust. And the pride of the fathers who are bereaved, fizzles under the weight of

the loss and grief.  Grandparents, too, grieve for the infant and their own child-bereaved. Additionally, for some who have chosen surrogacy or adoption, the loss can be a complex experience among all involved.  Regardless of the circumstances, the thoughts and feelings are often intense and intrusive as we deal with life after the loss of our babies.
There's help for that here.

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Pregnancy Loss

Regardless of how a pregnancy ends, the emotional consequences are often complex and involve grief. The biological carrier often endures a physical state consistent with pregnancy, weeks (sometimes months) after it has come to an end.  Parents, grandparents, and other loved-ones may grieve for the future they envisioned for the baby they lost. Some of us feel anxious, hopeless, and even faulty.  Others may experience feelings of unease or regret.  Still others may just need to process what happened

whether or not it was by choice.  
There's help for that here.

Pet Loss

Our animal companions are family members and, sometimes, the loves of our lives.  The death of one of them, be it expected or accidental, often results in a deeply personal sense of loss--one that others may have difficulty understanding.  Yet we grieve for the one with whom we spent a great deal of our time caring for, playing with, and cuddling.  Sometimes, it is our relationship with our dear animals that made life doable, calmed us when we were anxious, gave us a sense of strength, and kept us active. The gratitude we feel towards them is often immeasurable, and sometimes it was us who, compassionately, made the decision to bring their journey to an end.  We may be at peace with our decision or be unsettled and need to process it.

There's help for that here.

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Dana Lucas

Dana earned Certification in Grief Education through world-renowned grief expert, David Kessler's program. She is committed to providing the highest level of grief support through education, experience, and insights into the often unacknowledged rocky terrain of grief.  Dana also holds a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology with a Holistic Health Specialization and Marriage & Family Therapy emphasis, from JFK University, and has studied Co-Active Coaching through her graduate Alma Mater.

  

Her experience includes online and in person group facilitation, individual Mindset & Personal Growth Coaching, Parenting Consulting, and working in a psychiatric inpatient program, as well as outpatient mental health, behavioral health, and social services.

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My Grief

I've experienced a great deal of loss. The death of my infant son in 2004 was one of great magnitude.  Subsequently, I experienced 3 miscarriages, in addition to an estrangement from, and then death of, my Beloved Mother. I was broken for a while, but eventually, using my skills and knowledge, the support of dear friends, family members, and professionals,    I pieced myself together and created a life of wholeness that was different than before, but wholeness nonetheless. 

In the years that have followed, I have lost several other family members (including beloved animal companions) and dear friends--one of which (my brother) rocked me to my core, again.  Yet, my sense of wholeness remained intact while I embraced the process of grief and honored its unfolding.  While I am bereaved, I am better than okay
most of the time.

 

I've lived through pain for which there are no words to fully describe, and come out the other side of it a more evolved and solid human being. I laugh and experience joy.  Yet, there were days when I didn't know if that would ever happen, or if I wanted it to.  There was also a time when I denied being bereaved.            I thought that meant my life would always be one of sorrow and despair.  But now, I'm comfortable being bereaved and welcome the entire spectrum of emotions--including joy.

 

My process of healing has been complex, emotionally,

and involved the true essence of love and forgiveness

for those I've lost, those who harmed me, and myself for inadvertently causing pain while in the midst of my own healing.  It happens.


I've been working collaboratively with  individuals and families for 30+ years.  Fifteen of those have included supporting, witnessing, and coaching those in grief, and those who love

them--individually and in groups. Life after loss is a cumbersome journey. One that is tricky to navigate within a system and culture that fails to have a true understanding of what bereaved people want and need. 

One thing I know for sure is that no two people grieve the same.  The way we grieve is  colored by our life experiences and relationships, as well as our personality types, and other external influences.  As a Certified Grief Educator, I've trained under the world's foremost authority on grief, David Kessler, and my work with him, and colleagues in this field, is ongoing.

~Dana

Currently, all my sessions are held ONLINE via the ZOOM platform. Please contact me if you want to explore whether I can help you, or someone you care about, with grief. If you need support and someone to witness your story, or want to learn how to support someone who is grieving, I'm here to help.

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